Wearing veil and receiving ill-treatment from the family

Q 1: I am a highly educated twenty-seven-year-old girl. I used to work in scientific research, but I was guided by Allah (Exalted be He) to quit my job, stay at home and wear Niqab (face veil). This led to arguments with my family; none of them offer Salah (Prayer), and I know the ruling on those who do not offer Salah; some of them take drugs; they mock me and curse religion. This suffering continued for two years. A Multazim (practicing Muslim) man proposed to me, but they broke my engagement to him. Another man proposed to me and we concluded the marriage contract; and we are going to consummate the marriage soon in shaa' Allah (if Allah wills). He hates all that my family does, such as watching television and listening to the radio, and mixing between men and women, whether they are relatives or neighbors. Before concluding the marriage contract, I told him that I am not going to visit my family after marriage. However, I did not mean that I am not going to visit them at all; at least I am going to visit them on feasts and occasions. He reminded me of this after the marriage contract, and he told me that he thought I was not going to visit them at all. I am torn between two things: obeying my husband, and disobeying my parents, given that they are elderly people. I know the ruling on disobeying the husband and disobeying the parents. I need to know the final ruling on this subject, given that (Part No. 25; Page No. 161) my husband is ready to abide by the sound ruling if it is on my side. Please advise as soon as possible.

A: You should obey your husband in Ma`ruf (that which is judged as good, beneficial, or fitting by Islamic law and Muslims of sound intellect), and cooperate with him in righteousness and piety. You should also visit your parents with your husband, as a form of dutifulness to them, while advising them to quit the sins they are doing. This is according to Allah's saying, And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship until His saying, But if they (both) strive against you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not; but behave with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who turns to Me in repentance and in obedience. May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.