Had made a false oath

A: Firstly: Looking after that lady and her children and helping them with their provision is a way of showing kindness to your ties of kinship for which you are rewarded In sha’a-Allah (if Allah wills). (Part No. 15; Page No. 382) Secondly: It is impermissible for you to take any of the donations which are allocated for the concerned lady unless you have her permission. The fact that you spent some of your own money on her and her children does not change the situation. Thus, you were mistaken when you did not follow the foregoing and you have to return the money that you took or spent on yourself and your children to her. May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.